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Q. I have an STD and want to date other people. I have been shunned and talked about by people in my community. Where is a good place to get a fresh start?
A. If you have an STD, it can be difficult to find people to date. But one thing to remember is that you are not alone. There are many, many people that also have an STD of some sort. The number of people with an STD is on the rise each year even though more and more people know about ways to prevent an STD.
One of the best places to get a fresh start is through Internet dating. You can have a chance to really get to know someone and become good friends through certain sites cater particlularly to people just like you.
If you want to keep it private, you can do so. And when the time is right, you can then tell them that you have an STD and the nature of the problem. You will have had time to form a bond before the topic is brought up and have less chances of rejection.
Q. When is the right time to tell the person I met on the Internet that I have an STD?
A. This is a tough question to answer because each person situation is different. There are some STDs that are looked on less favorably by society as a whole. This can make it difficult to share this information with your new dating partner.
But at the same time, an STD can be transferred to your new dating partner and they have the right to know. It will be important to discuss preventative measures to keep from spreading the STD.
Q. If I date someone with an STD does that mean I will automatically get it? I have found someone that I really like on the Internet and we are planning to meet in person. I just found out about the STD and am a little nervous.
A. There are some STDs that you can use preventative measures to keep from passing to another person. You will need to look up the STD on the Internet and even talk to your health care provider about it with any questions that you have. Talk with the person that has the STD and find out what things are recommended to keep them from spreading the STD.
You can work around the majority of STDs and have a very healthy, fun and close relationship with the other person. Just because they have an STD does not mean that they should be completely avoided and not date them.
Q. I have Herpes and find it difficult to find someone to date. Will trying to find someone online be easier than finding someone through my communities’ activities?
A. Many people that hear the word Herpes automatically come up with numerous stereotypes and misinformation. This can make it incredibly difficult to meet someone in your community because so many people do not understand Herpes.
The good news is that there are online dating communities and support communities specifically for people that have Herpes. This offers you a chance to meet other people for moral support and for friendship. Who knows, one of those friendships could turn into a dating relationship and a beautiful romance.
Q. Am I restricted to dating only other people that have Herpes?
A. No definitely not. When you are in a dating relationship with anyone, there are times that you are not contagious. Additionally, it is possible to have an intimate, beautiful and loving relationship with a dating partner that does not also have Herpes.
It is important that you tell your partner that you have Herpes and the two of you talk to a health care provider together about the preventative measures that should be taken to prevent the spread of the disease. But just because you have Herpes does not restrict you to only dating other people that also have Herpes.
Q. What are the online communities like for Herpes dating support?
A. The online communities for Herpes dating support are wonderful. You will not meet people that are more supportive and understanding than you will find in the online communities. The Internet takes away many boundaries and people are able to express themselves more. Also, the online community is never closed.
There is always someone around that is willing to chat with you no matter what time of day or night it is that you feel you need support and encouragement. The good thing is that there are people within the communities that are either dating someone, have dated someone or who themselves have Herpes.
You can bond with these people and perhaps even find someone that you want to date. Just because they are part of the Herpes online community does not mean that everyone in the community has Herpes.
There are people that understand that you are not some sort of freak and are part of the community because they have made friends there or been referred by friends to the community. It is possible to find dating partners and have some very beautiful and meaningful relationships this way. | 
