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Q. I am disabled single and do not want anyone dating me out of pity. What are your suggestions?
A. For someone who is disabled, dating can be a little frightening. No one, regardless of the reason was to be dated at a pity. When you are talking to people on the Internet and the chat rooms in the disabled personals dating web sites, focus on forming a friendship and a relationship with these people.
You do not have to mention that you are physically challenged in the beginning of the relationship. Later after you have become friends, when the time is right you can tell them that you are disabled. At that point, you will want to let them know about the physically challenged aspects of your life.
Q. Will someone start dating me because I’m disabled?
A. Sometimes, you will run into people that will quit dating you once they find out that you are physically challenged. These people do not want to feel like they have to help and assist you with your challenges. Other people are absolutely ignorant and feel embarrassed to be with someone who is disabled.
But the truth of the matter is, you do not want to be with one of these people. If you’ve already formed a relationship or a friendship with this person it might be difficult to have things end. But it is important to remember that you cannot change the attitudes of other people and if they’re not willing to accept that you are physically challenged them they were not ever really truly a friend of yours.
Q. Do physically challenged people have intimate relationships?
A. Yes. There are many different ways to be in a relationship. Intimacy can be on a very deep, deep level with someone who is physically challenged. Do not assume that because someone is physically challenged that you are not be able to have the intimacy that other people have.
In fact, many people who are physically challenged have a deeper and more intimate relationship with their partners than people who are not physically challenged.
Q. I do not mind dating someone who is physically challenged. But I do not want to make them feel uncomfortable while we are dating.
A. The best thing that you can do when dating someone who is physically challenged is to ask them when they need assistance. They will share with you the things that they need a hand on and the things that they are independent.
If you are trying to help because you care and are concerned and are not showing pity they will not have any problem letting you know how to help them the best. Neither one of you will end up being uncomfortable and can have a very close relationship.
Q. What types of communities are available on the Internet for the physically challenged?
A. There are many types of communities available on the Internet for the physically challenged. The communities are very supportive and you can meet a lot of nice friends in them. There are chat rooms, message boards and disabled personals dating Internet sites for people that are physically challenged. It helps to be in a community of other people that are physically challenged because they know what you are going through and they understand the difficulties that you can face on a daily basis.
Q. How much of my physically challenged world should I share with the new person for dating?
A. After you have dated someone for a while and feel comfortable with them, it will be important to let them know that you are physically challenged. You can explain to them some of the task and difficulties that you face on a daily basis. Since you will have already been dating for a while, you will know that they’re dating you out of friendship and not pity.
Q. Should I rely on someone that I’m dating to help me with my physical challenges?
A. It is completely up to you how much of your physically challenged world you wish to share with another person. If you feel comfortable with this person, and then by all means allows them to help you and the ways that they can to make your life easier. After all, a serious dating relationship isn’t all about sharing on worlds with other people. When you are completely comfortable with this other person you will know the time is right to let them know about the challenges.
Q. Who should pay for the dates when I date someone who is physically challenged?
A. The person that pays for dates is completely up to the couple that is dating. If one of the partners that is dating is physically challenged it has nothing to with who pays for the dates. Just because someone is physically challenged, does not mean that they are unable to pay for things including dates.
Someone who is physically challenged can be working a fulltime job and have plenty of money for going out on dates that are very nice. When members of a disabled personals goes for a date, the issue of money and who pays for that date should be no different with someone who is disabled than someone who is not physically challenged.
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